Here’s something pretty cool: The following are six words, sayings or phrases that, when said abundantly at the right times, are guaranteed to raise the success and happiness levels of anyone who (a) speaks them, and (b) to whom they are spoken to – honestly! There’s no gimmicks or trickery here, just a firm promise that saying any or all of these things will bring joy to both you as the speaker, as well as to their recipients, but only on only two conditions: First, they must all be spoken OUT LOUD; and secondly, they must always be spoken with genuine sincerity. And if you agree to and follow these conditions, there’s no telling the wonderful consequences your words (and consequent actions) will have on the unsuspecting masses!
So pray tell, what are these mystical words, sayings and phrases that I speak of? You may want to grab a pen and paper, only so as not to miss out on a single one! Are you ready? They are:
• “Thank You”
• “I don’t know the answer, but I will find out for you”
• “I’m sorry”
• “How may I help you?”
Really? Am I saying that the mere act of uttering these simple everyday words, sayings and phrases at appropriate times will really make a huge positive difference in our lives, as well as the lives of others? That’s exactly what I’m saying, and here’s why: As simple and brief as each of these phrases is, in their own way each one reaches out and honours those being spoken to, and in a way that lets them know the speaker (that’s you!) is kind, caring and respectful towards them as people. In turn, these actions send out positive vibes that open up the doors of mutual respect and communication; things everyone needs to be successful in life. And yes, I’m serious when I say that kind words and gestures are the keys that will open these doors.
Let’s face it: These days good manners are rare; in fact, I’d say they are almost extinct! Yet for some reason they also never seem to go out of style – Thank Goodness! But as our world keeps getting smaller and smaller, it also becomes less personal, (Yep, I’m looking at you email, Facebook and iPhones) which then in turn seems to highlight the importance of giving and receiving of small courtesies to one another, don’t you think? My strong feelings about this disconnect we feel towards folks these days is what prompted me to write this post; I want it to serve as a reminder just how important (and easy) saying a few kind words can lead to our own success and happiness, as well as maybe even the success and happiness of others.
For instance, can you imagine if you made a habit of introducing yourself to one stranger each day? You know, simply offering them a genuine greeting or smile… just how do you think it would affect your mental state? How do about theirs? Do this every day and I’m pretty sure you’d make a few people’s days special (As in “Make My Day”) before the week was up. Or what if we all made a habit of helping out whenever we saw someone struggling with small tasks? You know, like holding a door open a door for them when their arms are full, or grabbing a box of stuffing on the top shelf at the grocery store that they can’t reach for themselves – can you picture the gratitude and happiness this would bring you (a) knowing you were doing the right thing, as well as (b) how it would make the person you are helping feel? Pretty great I bet! Who knew such a small investment would return such a large dividend of the “Warm and Fuzzies”?
So my message today is both brief and simple: If elevating our happiness level is really as simple as being polite, kind and quoting a few phrases, (or offering a bit of help) then why not do it always and often, thereby elevating both ourselves and others with our kind words and deeds? Why not treat everyone we come in contact with like a V.I.P.? Actually, according to Dale Carnegie, there are three very good reasons we should treat folks like this; you know, as if they are the most important person in the world:
1) To them, they probably ARE the most important person in the world!
2) It will make them feel like they ARE the most important person in the world!
1) It’s the right thing to do; for both them and YOU
And if it’s good enough for D.C., then it’s good enough for me! Remember, when in doubt, always go back to the basics and use the manners mom and grandmother beat into your hides; these simple gestures will make your days brighter, your life better and will help make you more successful… all while letting the world know you are a good, kind person. (Bonus: You’ll make mom and grandma proud at the same time!) So now we’ve got that straight, let’s all go out and make the day a wee bit brighter for others through our words and actions, shall we? Onward and upward!
Readers; do you remember a time when some kind words or gestures by a stranger totally made your day? What did they do, why is it memorable, and how did it make you feel at the time?