Disclaimer: I’ve been sitting on something lately, and it’s time to let the dragon out. This is honest, 100% Fish and real, but it’s not for the faint at heart. Step aside, or be warned… 101 revisions and this is as uncensored as it’s going to get. xo. David
Something’s been bothering me lately, and I think I’ve finally figured out what it is, and why it upsets me so much. Despite my ongoing efforts to be seen as a “good guy”, I’m fully aware that not everyone appreciates what I have to say, or my direct and “no bullshit” approach to life; which basically, means I always call it the way I see it – whatever “it” may be at the time. But know this: I also always try to do so in a polite and professional manner. In other words I’ll always call “A spade a spade”, (is it still politically correct to say that?) but will also make an effort to be pleasant, kind and respectful toward everyone I talk to or spend time with, despite whether or not their opinions and/or views align with mine. So what’s the problem? Quite simply, it’s this:
It really sends me when “certain people” do something douchey and – then get called on it – rather than taking responsibility for their actions and/or behaviours, they retaliate by saying unkind, nasty things about the person who confronted them, and always behind their back. The same goes for dick heads who bad mouth people who don’t share their small-minded, redneck opinions – we all know these jerks! They’ll do (or say) something shitty, then when someone questions them about it, they’ll try and make themselves look like the “victim” of the situation; and instead of quietly disagreeing, they call the other people names, generally bad-mouthing them to friends, colleagues, employers, etc. all just to mask their embarrassment for being a general D-bag in the first place! And why do they do this? Let’s be clear – it’s because some honest person (usually me) actually had the guts to call them on their shitty words or deeds; and rather than own up to their behaviour, they attack this person (Me again! Looks like I’m on a roll!) to anyone they can using lies and slander, hoping to deflect the fact that they are the real “asshole” of the story.
Unfortunately, this happened to me a couple of times lately, where I’ve (politely) called some people on their shit, and rather than own up to it, (or agree that we have a different opinions – possibly too grown up of an approach) they’ve unleashed their cowardly fury of slander behind my back, with the intention to paint me in an unfair light! And what’s worse is that not only were their words untrue, but they were purposely cruel, mean-spirited and hurtful towards me.
Yep, Even for someone who is a bit “rough at times” like me, and who doesn’t mind taking a few hits, this kind of name-calling and accusations hurt, and you know why? Because being honest is not the same as being an asshole; it’s just being honest, and nobody should be penalized because those with weak, moral character can’t own up to their own poor behaviours and indiscretions. But don’t worry, I’m not going to cry about this, and here’s why:
I’ve come to understand that these people are pathetic. Let’s face it, whenever these cowards tell their side of “what happened” or “what was said” they obviously don’t report the truth, instead regurgitating “tall-tales” of how sound some terrible, terrible person (again, usually me) has been rude/mean/narcissistic/asshole-ish etc. to poor, kind, sweet defenceless them… But wait a minute! Am I saying these people fabricate everything? Well no, not EVERYTHING. Are any parts of their stories true? Yup, the 5% that covers the fact that two people were present! But from there on in their tales of woe are loaded with major “ass-covering” bullshit delivered by liars, covering up the shame of being called on bad behaviour. Now that I think about it, these guys are the true assholes of the stories! But regardless, because their attacks are unfounded, their words can still be hurtful to the rest of us – me included. I bet these jerks are so busy lying that they don’t realize that the truth would probably be a lot easier to handle, and if they used it, people would like and trust them instead of… well, the exact opposite.
As mentioned, I’ve had a couple of situations in the past few months where this happened to me, and I’ve to learn to accept a hard, sad truth: When weak, insecure bullies people offended or threatened, they retaliate in the most cowardly way of all – by embellishing and twisting their tales, and telling lies to make themselves appear as the justified for their actions, no matter how wrong they are. They try and deflect the attention from their actions to the fabricated stories they’ve woven, hoping that no-one will notice. Well guess what? We do notice when people lie about us, and to us; but more importantly, so does everyone else. Moral character speaks volumes about people, and in the end, those people have no concern for the truth, or remorse for how their comments and lies affect those they bad-mouth pay the biggest price of all… They lack of respect from their peers. It all makes me wonder: What kind of people are these, who choose to live this way?
All in all, I’ve learned that assholes never like to be called out on things – regardless of how tactfully they are spoken to – and respond the only way they know how to; first by not taking any responsibility, then by lying about what really happened to appear the victim for who will listen. And because of that, I will no longer try and placate them, or let their words hurt me, because why? Why should I run the risk of being pulled into their sick little webs of lies? It’s just so not worth it, and makes me wonder what kind of fulfilling, exciting and adventurous lives the folks who use the “asshole” philosophy live on a daily basis? Come to think of it, I already know the answer; from what I’ve seen, not so good.
And truth be told, I’m sure that neither you nor I would trade ten of their lives for one of ours, right? In the game of life, they are the sheep and we are lions; and “Lions never loses sleep over the opinions of sheep” … As long as you and I know the truth in our hearts, who really cares what these people say? In the end, our true friends/colleagues and employers will always stand by what’s right, and honest deeds and they too, will call out the assholes. If they don’t, it will certainly prove which camp they belong in, and it’s probably not with us lions, but with the sheep. And what happens to sheep? I think we all know the answer to that!
Okay, I’m not going to let any of this bother me any more… well, not too much. Thanks for letting me rant and getting my thoughts and feelings out on this topic – I really appreciate it!
– Fish out!