Here’s a something that might surprise you: Despite my ongoing quest to live a remarkable life, the truth is I’ve never been a big fan of the whole “Law of Attraction” movement, mostly because of the way it’s been served up to the masses like fast food over the past few years. This is all courtesy of that silly book (and bloody awful “movie”) titled “The Secret”; and just in case you’ve been spared from this God-awful rubbish, (lucky you!) “The Secret” is a bunch of “experts” who insist that anyone can get anything that they want (everything from a Rock Star parking space to an exotic beach holiday) simply by focusing on it, and by believing that the universe will turn around and serve it up to them on a silver platter, no questions asked. I know this is a load of crap l since I check my driveway every single morning and there’s never a Porsche waiting for me, despite my overwhelming focus and desire for one… hell, I can’t even manage to “focus” up a couple of eggs and toast in the morning! No wonder I’m addicted to cereal!
Now to be fair, despite having trashed “The Secret”, I will say that I truly do believe in the core message and underlying principle behind the LOA; and that is the message that anyone can manifest the things we want to have into our lives, if we are willing to (a) focus, (b) follow a few steps and (c) do the work required to make it all happen. My problem with how this message is delivered by “The Secret” is they neglect steps (b) & (c), glossing them over with super-sized packaging and gobs of ketchup so as to make their product (not the real concept) more palatable to suck in the masses “All you have to do is want something and the universe will provide it! Lights! Camera! Action!” So, am I really suggesting that a Whopper with fries, with its “ten-napkins-worth-of-greasy-goodness” might actually hold an important clue to living a life of happiness? Well, maybe, sort of…? Maybe I’ll let YOU decide.
Here’s how I see it: Just like fast food, this principle is easy and available for anyone to find at any time of any moment of any day; and because it’s like fast food, it can also be promoted in the same generic fashion as fast food. It’s not until we “drill down” and begin asking questions do we realize it that the more specific our desire is, the more work it will take to get it, or in “Secret-speak”, “manifest it” into our lives. So, what’s it gonna be? Do you want a Hamburger? Fried chicken? How about tacos, hot dogs or sub sandwiches? Because while it’s all fast food, each item is very different from the next and not every one will suit your personal tastes, right? Hmm… decision time has begun, and like most things we want in life, this too, must be narrowed down from it’s generic “catch all” form (being fast food) if we are to get the exact item that we want; because whereas if someone’s goal is simply to get fed, the Universe might know how to present some food; but it sure as heck doesn’t know the difference between a Extra Value Big Mac Meal and a Family Size Bucket of KFC! For that distinction to be made, we as the mighty “manifesting ones” need to intervene and take the specific steps required to achieve our precise goal… makes sense, right?
When “A Burger” is NOT “Just a Burger”…
Sticking with our theme, let’s say you decide you’re hungry for a fast food burger; the question becomes do you want just any hamburger, or have you narrowed it down to a favorite? Maybe a “Whopper”, “Big Mac”, “Teen Burger” or the most macho of them all, the “Bacon-ator”? So little time, so many decisions…! Let’s say you choose a Teen Burger, but there’s a problem: The closest A&W is 20 miles away! despite what they say in “The Secret”, it’s doubtful that by putting your desire for a Teen Burger “out to the universe” one will magically appear, or that an A&W will show up on your block in a puff of smoke, right? And there’s the problem with this material; it takes this approach to anything anybody could want in their life, saying that all they have to do is “focus” and then be ready to “receive” it with open arms. Sure, you can “receive” the Teen Burger you want, but not without first driving 20 miles, spending money on gas, wasting an hour of your time – an who is willing to do that?
Now what if someone wants a better job and “puts it out to the universe” – does this mean someone is going to show up and give them a high paying job with a corner office and 4 weeks holiday each year, just because they “focused” on it? Of course not! Besides the obvious interviews, updated resume’s etc. that need to be attended to, many of these desired jobs require more education or training before someone would even be considered for them; a fact “The Secret” conveniently neglects to tell their readership, because, frankly, if they did, no one would buy it. Their “Wish and hope” philosophy is a much easier sell for the masses to buy, and just like the metaphor of the far off Teen Burger, the idea of having to put in any real effort to achieve a desired end result is too much, and the reality is that most folks will settle for what’s quick, easy and convenient instead. And it’s because they take “The Secrets” fantasy approach to everything in life (from jobs, to relationships, to education and life experiences) many folks stay stuck in their lives.
Because “The Secret” products are meant to sell to the masses, they are designed (like fast food) to be palatable to the masses; these generally being the same masses who complain about their lives on a daily basis but won’t lift a finger to do anything (let alone actually read a book) to change the for the better! As a general rule, this audience doesn’t want to be bothered with silly details like planning, saving, sacrificing etc. to get what they want – they want to drop down their money and have their problem solved, you know, kind of like how buying a fast food burger instantly solves a hunger problem for them. Sadly, this book gives them the impression that this is about as much commitment as they need to put forth to achieve any goal in their life, be it solving a hunger pang or achieving a trip around the world… Seriously people, if manifesting what we truly want out of life were that easy, wouldn’t all of our lives look a lot different than they do today?
Wise people know it takes much more than just “putting intentions out to the universe” or “wishing” to have the important things we want to have come into our lives; we understand that those acts are merely planting the seeds, and it’s up to us to nurture and help them grow into fully developed (and realized) things in the real world. We know that without the care and nurturing of our dreams and goals that the just become a bunch of “coulda, shoulda, woulda” ideas, and that we must focus, sacrifice, plan and often delay our gratification if we want to get the things we truly want. But having “been there, done that” before we also know that these so called “sacrifices” are well worth the wait and the end result. And that’s why we get to live the remarkable lives of our dreams
So hopefully my little rant gets the following point across: That we can pretty much have anything we want out of live; however to be successful in our “manifestation” we need to do more than just focus – we also need a plan, a level commitment, discipline, and above all, to keep working and taking steps towards the fruition of our goals. Anything else is called “wishing” and falls under the “Good Luck With That” category. Okay, enough of that; all this talk of food has made me hungry, and I’m now craving a “Teen Burger”… I’d best get the car warmed up for the 20 mile trip if I’m going to “manifest” one for lunch! Too bad I don’t have a porsche to make the drive more enjoyable… or do I? Better check the driveway first, just in case I’m the one full of crap!
Have you broken a goal down into several steps, and then, after working your plan, one day to have the desired end result “mystically” appear in your life? How did you feel knowing that you worked your plan to fruition?